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This past weekend my husband and I went to the movies and when the movie was over everyone stood and left the theatre, in silence.  I don’t know about you but that is the first time I have witnessed silence on exit of a movie.   The movie was American Sniper.

What I saw in that movie was a man who was passionate about his purpose in saving his country and fellow officers while leaving his wife wondering where the man she married had gone.  Again there is silence, a man unable to communicate with his wife and as she thinks he is indifferent to her there are movies of past missions running through his head.

In some respect I can relate to that scene.  As the wife of a police officer I can remember coming home from work one day upset.  My husband was already home and playing with our two children.   When I shared with him what had transpired at work he snapped at me, not his normal behaviour.  It was weeks later that I found out (not from him) that he had attended a house fire where two children, the ages of our two children 2 and 3 years old, had perished.  It was then that I remembered he had not only been playing with them he had been hugging them.

Years later I would experience my own silence with the past rerunning in my head.  Like me my husband stood by me.

Chris Kyle, the American Sniper, found his salvation in service, one far removed from his tours in Iraq.  At the time of his death his wife had her happy, loving husband back.

I believe if we can find a purpose, something we believe in and are passionate about we can move forward from that which haunts us.  I believe, thanks to help both professional and nonprofessional, we can leave what haunts us behind.

Thanks to Chris Kyles wife, family and friends his legacy lives on in the book, movie and the Chris Kyle Frog Foundation.



  1. Thank you for your deep insight. The words in you wrote are so very powerful. Makes me think of times where there was silence and I had no idea what was going on.
    Thank you Janet!

  2. Wow Janet! Thank you so much for sharing your experience of seeing the movie! I went and saw the film last Tuesday and it is very intense, thought provoking and emotional. I found it so awkward but so powerful that the theatre was silent after! No music and no talking. All I kept thinking was I can’t imagine everything both of them went through at all of the different points in their lives. I also kept thinking, I wonder what everyone else in the theatre is thinking and what they got from the movie. Life is just so different for everyone and everyone gets something different out of something.
    Thank you for sharing your story of your personal experience and how you could relate to their lives. That feeling of not knowing someone that you know so well in that moment must have been so unsettling. I can’t imagine what it was like once you heard what had happened and why your husband was the way he was on that day.
    I absolutely agree with you that purpose and passion move us forward!
    Thanks again for sharing!
    Take Care!

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